It’s surprisingly easy to be unaware of, or perhaps even embarrassed by, just how deep the human longing to feel like we matter runs. We all want and need to feel valued. Our mental and emotional well being depends on it. As therapists we like to talk about this as being seen, heard, and understood. In order to feel valued we need the people that matter most to us to pay attention to us, to listen to us, and to show genuine interest in getting to know who we are. When we sens