I started these posts curious to open up an exploration of what feels fundamental to therapy. After going back over the first three I noticed that they form a good working description of what I would consider the necessary basics of effective therapy.
It’s surprisingly easy to be unaware of, or perhaps even embarrassed by, just how deep the human longing to feel like we matter runs. We all want and need to feel valued. Our mental and emotional well being depends on it.
As therapists we like to talk about this as bein...
One of the classic images of therapy is the moment when we, eyes filled with tears, finally see that some painful thing has secretly been standing in our way. We realize that we don’t have to feel, think, or behave this way anymore. The relief is tremendous.